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Last night I went out to listen to Jazz, alone.  I get lost in my thoughts when I listen to music but I find myself, of sorts. I was seated at a cozy bar and before long, I was deeply enchanted in the life of a darling young woman who was out on a date with her husband. As the music played, she leaned over and introduced herself to me and shared bits about herself. I shared a little about myself.  She shared that she had two young children, had been married for 14 years, and was a home-schooling mother.  She told me that almost apologetically.  I enjoyed thinking of my days of being a young mother and how much I loved that time in my life. She danced with her husband and made me reminisce and reflect on my younger days.  I wrapped my very own life up in the wishes and desires of everyone around me and did not recognize my own worth until it was gone. I was a 1950’s woman.  I grew up trained to be a 1950’s woman.   Now, I love my job.  I absolutely love what I do.  I love the schedule that it provides in my life.  I love the people that I meet.  I love the days off.  I am proud of the company I work for.  If you had ever asked me if I would be doing what I am doing, say, 30 years ago, I would never, ever, dreamed that I would be working full time in a career in Luxury Retail.  I however just love the fact that the paycheck that I receive every two weeks, is something that I truly earned without any help.  I get to spend it exactly as I want.  I get to plan ahead for my travels.  I feel free.  Could I be a woman who lunches these days?  Definitely not,  there would be too much free time.  How much shopping can a woman do? How many “things” do we need?Image  While I do hope that I meet that special someone to share my life with in the future, I believe that Mae West had it right when she said “Every woman deserves her own purse.” 

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OK, I have written a few posts lately about RE-meeting someone from my past.  It has been so fun!  Those 4 hour-long conversations on the cell phone.  We met sitting next to each other in our History classes about 40 years ago.  I had a crush on him, then.  So much life has moved in between our two lives.  So, I am asking….. How does one have a long distance relationship?  I will be seeing him in about 3 weeks.  This is the most different relationship that I have ever encountered.  I have lived in a city more than 30 years now very far from the home town where we grew up.  Could I live there again?  I suppose.  I have many friends in this city and to be with the one that I love would be so wonderful.  Singlehood is no fun!  I’ve tried it for 17 years now and I know that I can do it.  Time to invest in this new person.  More later!Image

I was sitting and having my lunch about two weeks ago.  Checking my messages and reading my emails on my telephone, that day, I had received a text message from an old friend.  He wanted my email address. Our reunion is approaching, and I thought, “he wants me to be on a committee”.   I remembered him fondly, and sent my email right away.  Now,  It has been two weeks, nearly, and we have been writing each other back and forth.  We have not seen each other for nearly 30-40 years!  With the invention of Social Networking, which I am very pleased, it has allowed many of us to rekindle relationships that would have been lost.  We have all heard of the World War 2 Veteran who found his long, lost, love, many years later.  It has been said that “Life is like a River, that never stands still, and never permits you to relive the same moment twice”.  Like a snowflake, one moment is never like another.

“Nostalgia is like a “devise that removes the ruts and potholes from memory lane.”  Yesterday, I spoke to my friend for nearly 5 hours.  So much catching up to do.  He sat behind me in History class in High School.  While I am so very excited to re-meet this person, I already see how very much history 40 years have added to our stories.  I am staying focused and looking forward to today and NOW!  I am not anxious a bit.  I am very excited and happy.  Life is just such an adventure.  Stay Tuned!Image

IMG_0622Most of you have heard the beautiful voice of  Louis Armstrong singing, What a Wonderful World.  I love this song.  I have heard  Willie Nelson sing this song and others too.  “I see trees of green, Red roses too, I see em bloom… for me and for you and I think to myself, what a wonderful world.  I see skies of blue, clouds of white, Bright blessed days… dark sacred nights… And, I think to myself, what a wonderful world.”

Last week, I attended a funeral for a friend.  He did not die old.  He became very sick.  He had born 7 children.  They all spoke at his packed service.  It was just amazing and he would have been so proud! Everyone there had tears streaming down their cheeks.  He was not a perfect man.  Non of us are.  He was a cigar smoking, scotch drinking, long tall Texan.  A real man’s man, who had a very tender soul.  He did not meet anyone who he did not befriend.  I’m going to miss him and yet it was so good to go to his wonderful service and to reflect upon my own life and to realize that my life is ticking by. I don’t know what the future holds.  Thank goodness!  Today, all I want to do is say… What a wonderful world!

Turbulence is life force.  It is opportunity. Let’s love turbulence and use it for change.  Ramsay Clark

When you get there, there isn’t any there there.  Gertrude Stein

Tonight, I went to a retirement party for two fellow employees.  We work for a large Luxury Retail Company and love the brand that we sell.  Our standards are high and the people who work for the company carry high standards and goals.  We each, are hard on ourselves as much as our managers are hard on us.  Everyone seems to be a high achiever and somewhat of a disciplined person or you probably don’t belong.  We all work together and are kind and friendly within the work environment.  We rarely get to see each other let down and be relaxed.  Tonight, we all did.  It was wonderful.  We realized what it is that makes our company great.  We also realized our human-ness and fragility.  We toasted and tears were shed.  One person was leaving the company after many years to go on to other career goals.  The other person, had accomplished everything that he wished in his career and was moving to a warm climate to retire.  It was a bittersweet atmosphere.  We took a large group photo and it was quite an ordeal.  The turbulence in the air of life can take your breath away.  If the cabin pressure drops in your life, put on your oxygen mask and breath normally!

I married at 20 years old.  I know?  What was I thinking and yet I did the same thing that most young women do and marry their father. Or, their father in a different body.  So, I worked so hard for another 20 years to get this man to adore me.  It was so much work.  HE was so much work!!  And, No, I could never make him happy.    Yes, I got three wonderful children out of the deal and would never trade them for anything.  So now, I have been single for some time.  Yes, you might ask, have I done the internet dating thing?  I have done it all.  I truly believe in Love.  I have many friends who have been married for long lengths of time and still love each other.  I did the therapy thing and reflected on why I chose the person that I did.   I have read a hundred books on the subject.  I have even traveled around the world by myself!  Recently, I was listening to the radio for an advertisement for another Internet dating site,  the message was that Marriage is truly one of the most important decisions that anyone will ever make in their lives that will impact their happiness.  I really believe that.  Now, I am very happy with my life and count myself blessed but I do think that having someone to share your life with is something that I desire.  Does anyone have any other ideas?  

I could not help but put my head in my hands as I looked at the horrible devastation following the cyclone that hit so forcibly into the Philippines yesterday.  Having grown up in Oklahoma, I witnessed terrible storms packed with violent winds, lightening, rain and destruction.  A tornado usually forms over land and in our modern age, one can look at the sky or even hear an alarm. We usually have some indication to take shelter, (although, the Moore, Oklahoma tornado showed us that this is not always true.)  Hurricanes form in the Southern Hemisphere over water and can be spotted a day or so away as do Cyclones, which form in the Northern hemisphere and can also be seen to warn people in it’s path.  Unfortunately, this monstrous  storm, formed off the coast of a very poor country.  There was nowhere for these people to go.

We must remind ourselves of our precious lives and the fragility of it.  Relationships are the most important thing we have.  Sieze the Day!