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I adore any holiday where there is “Amorous Giving” involved.  What is not to like about having someone to Love?  Healthy love of another person is what makes life worth living.  And here we are at another February 14, on the calendar and another “Hallmark moment”.  February 14 falls on a Friday this year.  Can you even imagine getting a reservation to your favorite restaurant?  What about giving something that keeps on giving?  Last evening, I attended one of the best concerts that I have ever attended.  It was Sting and Paul Simon, on their third night of a 20 plus evening, travel tour.  Oh My!!!  Sixteen men and women in their band who all played different instruments, from the Bass, to the Guitar, to the Organ, to the harmonica to the washboard!  Both men, exemplary stars in their own name and to be together!  I bought my tickets when I first heard of the announcement and so I had tickets close to the stage at the Pepsi Center, where the show was a sell out to over 18,000 people. I recalled my evening today to many co-workers and called it the gift that keeps on giving.  I find that travel and wonderful experiences are just those…  “GIFTS THAT KEEP ON GIVING”.  How could I ever erase the amazing experiences that I have had on my journeys around the globe?  How also could I ever forget Sting and Paul Simon singing “Like a Bridge over Troubled Water”?  It was purely unbelievable. I wish everyone a very Happy Valentine’s Day.  I was once a florist, so I adore flowers.  Nothing can replace a sudden bouquet in your face.  NOTHING, will   ImageREPLACE A MEMORY!!!

I grew up in Oklahoma.  Moved to Colorado and lived here for many years, moved to Texas and now I am back in Colorado.  I love Colorado.  I loved Oklahoma.  I loved Texas.  I am single.  My children are grown and living their lives.  I have begun to think of how I would feel about moving again?  I think that I could be happy nearly anywhere.  While I probably would not think it possible to live happily in a Third World Country, I do believe that I could, and be content.  Image   I visited New Guinea several years ago and found that the people there, loved their lives.  They new nothing else.  I left my marriage and chose to travel extensively.  I did the “Eat, Pray, Love” thing!  Traveling alone is one of the greatest gifts that I have ever been able to give myself.  Traveling, Period, is just the most wonderful thing that anyone can do for themselves.  I have recently been considering what it would be like to take a position in another city and move again.  The idea makes me so excited.  I probably could never stop cheering for my Denver Broncos but  the thought of a new place to explore and fresh faces makes me happy.  My feeling is that you cannot have too many friends.  I started this blog for my own therapy.  To wrap my arms around my thoughts and dreams.  What if you just put it out there that you could go Anywhere and see what would happen?  I am going to give it a try.  

Well, I know that there has been much written and talked about regarding Retirement Communities and the things that happen behind closed doors.  I have an amazing story to tell.  My Mother and Father were married for 58 years.  Not, 58 blissful years, but 58 years, non the less.  58 Years of commitment to someone, day in and day out is something to celebrate.  It becomes a habit of sorts and if you have been married for 58 years, you married at a young age and grew up together.  This was the way for many of our parents.  There was no thinking of parting ways. While many were “lucky” to meet someone compatible and ready to meet the challenges of life, there were probably few who were “soul” mates.  My Father passed away nearly two years ago.  We went through the mourning and the sorting out of life’s possessions and moving Mom into a retirement community.  It was a challenge.  

Two months after Mom moved in, a gentleman moved in to the Center.  My Mom is 81.  This man is 94.  He took a liking to my Mom and at dinner they became “dancing partners”Image.  He, is 94 but would pass for 65-70 years.  Fast-forward and today they live together.  I have never witnessed such Love.  Doug has said that he has never felt this way for another woman, even though he was married for over 60 years.  They have “True Love”.  They have realized the importance of Life, and how very precious it is.  They wake up in separate bedrooms, but they spend valuable time together and I do not believe could be living as happily alone as they are together. Life is truly amazing and so worth living.  I sure hope that I don’t have to wait until I arrive at my retirement community to realize my “True Love”.

I married at 20 years old.  I know?  What was I thinking and yet I did the same thing that most young women do and marry their father. Or, their father in a different body.  So, I worked so hard for another 20 years to get this man to adore me.  It was so much work.  HE was so much work!!  And, No, I could never make him happy.    Yes, I got three wonderful children out of the deal and would never trade them for anything.  So now, I have been single for some time.  Yes, you might ask, have I done the internet dating thing?  I have done it all.  I truly believe in Love.  I have many friends who have been married for long lengths of time and still love each other.  I did the therapy thing and reflected on why I chose the person that I did.   I have read a hundred books on the subject.  I have even traveled around the world by myself!  Recently, I was listening to the radio for an advertisement for another Internet dating site,  the message was that Marriage is truly one of the most important decisions that anyone will ever make in their lives that will impact their happiness.  I really believe that.  Now, I am very happy with my life and count myself blessed but I do think that having someone to share your life with is something that I desire.  Does anyone have any other ideas?