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Today, I read an amazing story about a woman who thought that she would never have any more children. She had one.  To her amazement, she found out that she was pregnant at the age of 42.  To more of her amazement, she found out before birth, that she would have three children.  To everyones Astonishment, (even the doctor), at delivery, the doctor proclaimed “there are more feet”!  Whoa, that is amazing to me in this day in the age of knowledge.  To top that off,  the four female children, were identical in their DNA.  The chances of that are unbelievable!  God does work in mysterious ways.

I have three children.  I love them each more than my own life.  They each seemed like little miracles of life to me.  They all were different and yet they had the same parents.  The plain fact is that Children are each a gift.  The are not a possession.  We are given these little ones to be in our care, and if we do a good job, or not, they must fly.  Of course we try to give it our best.  That is all we know.  We were not given an instruction manual with the delivery of our children.  Wouldn’t that be nice?  Most of us were youngsters, ourselves, when these children arrived into our lives. That is so much a part of the beauty of living life.  Watching our children become adults.  

What happens, when our children are delayed in becoming adults?  We live in a society where that is occurring more and more.  It is the disease of enabling.  This afternoon, I was working and had a beautiful young woman come to visit me, and she needed something to wear to her four year old’s birthday party.  Her words were  “every year I seem to plan a wedding for my daughter”.   I had to bite my tongue. 

I know how wonderful it is to give to our children.  I am all for it.  I also feel that this generation is torn between what they have achieved and what has been given to them.  There is nothing wrong with having to learn and earn something.  This is really what makes the world go round. Actually, my childhood years of sharing one car, sharing one telephone, and watching the same television program was really wonderful.  I wonder what the future holds for our children? Image 

I recently got an email from one of my children.  Contemplation was going on about Authentic Happiness and this child shared a link from the University of Pennsylvania where they are conducting a study on Happiness.  You can find it at AuthenticHappiness.org.  I am a firm believer that Happiness is a choice that we each wake up to each morning.  As Tom Petty says in his Song,  “Somedays are Diamonds and Somedays are Rocks”.  We are NEVER, EVER going to have everyday in our life to feel Great!  And, would you?  I realize now as I look back over my life, that some of my biggest challenges in my life provided such amazing growth in me and that I would not be the “Happy” person that I am if I had not gone through those trials.  I am one though, that thinks that Happiness is a problem in our society.  Everyone thinks that they deserve to be Happy.  We have so many “victims”.  It is the (if I had this, I would be happy) syndrome!!!  Why not turn it around and say, “I have everything that I need right this minute, and I am going to put a huge smile on my face”.  Have you noticed that if you walk past someone and smile that they normally smile back?  Happiness is a choice.  We chose to be happy.  This affects everyone around us.  Tomorrow, give it a try.  Wake up.  Put a smile on and go to work.  Walk in,  greet everyone with affection and tell them something that you value in them.  It is contagious!  Image

I grew up in Oklahoma.  Moved to Colorado and lived here for many years, moved to Texas and now I am back in Colorado.  I love Colorado.  I loved Oklahoma.  I loved Texas.  I am single.  My children are grown and living their lives.  I have begun to think of how I would feel about moving again?  I think that I could be happy nearly anywhere.  While I probably would not think it possible to live happily in a Third World Country, I do believe that I could, and be content.  Image   I visited New Guinea several years ago and found that the people there, loved their lives.  They new nothing else.  I left my marriage and chose to travel extensively.  I did the “Eat, Pray, Love” thing!  Traveling alone is one of the greatest gifts that I have ever been able to give myself.  Traveling, Period, is just the most wonderful thing that anyone can do for themselves.  I have recently been considering what it would be like to take a position in another city and move again.  The idea makes me so excited.  I probably could never stop cheering for my Denver Broncos but  the thought of a new place to explore and fresh faces makes me happy.  My feeling is that you cannot have too many friends.  I started this blog for my own therapy.  To wrap my arms around my thoughts and dreams.  What if you just put it out there that you could go Anywhere and see what would happen?  I am going to give it a try.