I recently got an email from one of my children.  Contemplation was going on about Authentic Happiness and this child shared a link from the University of Pennsylvania where they are conducting a study on Happiness.  You can find it at AuthenticHappiness.org.  I am a firm believer that Happiness is a choice that we each wake up to each morning.  As Tom Petty says in his Song,  “Somedays are Diamonds and Somedays are Rocks”.  We are NEVER, EVER going to have everyday in our life to feel Great!  And, would you?  I realize now as I look back over my life, that some of my biggest challenges in my life provided such amazing growth in me and that I would not be the “Happy” person that I am if I had not gone through those trials.  I am one though, that thinks that Happiness is a problem in our society.  Everyone thinks that they deserve to be Happy.  We have so many “victims”.  It is the (if I had this, I would be happy) syndrome!!!  Why not turn it around and say, “I have everything that I need right this minute, and I am going to put a huge smile on my face”.  Have you noticed that if you walk past someone and smile that they normally smile back?  Happiness is a choice.  We chose to be happy.  This affects everyone around us.  Tomorrow, give it a try.  Wake up.  Put a smile on and go to work.  Walk in,  greet everyone with affection and tell them something that you value in them.  It is contagious!  Image

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I grew up in Oklahoma.  Moved to Colorado and lived here for many years, moved to Texas and now I am back in Colorado.  I love Colorado.  I loved Oklahoma.  I loved Texas.  I am single.  My children are grown and living their lives.  I have begun to think of how I would feel about moving again?  I think that I could be happy nearly anywhere.  While I probably would not think it possible to live happily in a Third World Country, I do believe that I could, and be content.  Image   I visited New Guinea several years ago and found that the people there, loved their lives.  They new nothing else.  I left my marriage and chose to travel extensively.  I did the “Eat, Pray, Love” thing!  Traveling alone is one of the greatest gifts that I have ever been able to give myself.  Traveling, Period, is just the most wonderful thing that anyone can do for themselves.  I have recently been considering what it would be like to take a position in another city and move again.  The idea makes me so excited.  I probably could never stop cheering for my Denver Broncos but  the thought of a new place to explore and fresh faces makes me happy.  My feeling is that you cannot have too many friends.  I started this blog for my own therapy.  To wrap my arms around my thoughts and dreams.  What if you just put it out there that you could go Anywhere and see what would happen?  I am going to give it a try.  

I was once told that I should always be my very best in Every Situation.  That information has transferred into my everyday well being.  I like to show up, everyday, looking, acting, and being, my very best.  Not everyday do I feel or look my best but I can act my best.  It is a choice.  I have found that by doing this, other people around me, try to be their best too.  Everyone, on a daily basis, is struggling with their own challenges.  Not often spoken about, for a good reason, but life has a way of challenging us,Image that affects everyone. These challenges are happening while we put on our “faces” for the world to see.  But, let me ask, what does it mean to be your very best?  Is it OK to go on a job interview with un-polished shoes? Un-manicured nails? No freshly pressed shirt?  Should you show up with bad breath?  When you go on a date, do you show someone your very best?  What does that mean to you?   I’m talking about first impressions. Aren’t First impressions the most important part?   If I am having somebody over to my house, I would normally clean and have everything neat and tidy.  Would you?  If I am picking up someone from the airport, I would have my car freshly washed and vacuumed.  I am not crazy about neatness, but I am crazy about disorderliness. I believe that what you wear and how you appear in your environment, speaks loudly about who you are.  It tells another of how you take care of yourself.  I know, that nobody is going to take care of me, like I can take care of me.  If I cannot take care of me, then how can I hope to take care of another?  I am growing older.   People are changing.  The only thing or person that I can change is me.  I hope to be my very best in every situation, what about you?

Well, I know that there has been much written and talked about regarding Retirement Communities and the things that happen behind closed doors.  I have an amazing story to tell.  My Mother and Father were married for 58 years.  Not, 58 blissful years, but 58 years, non the less.  58 Years of commitment to someone, day in and day out is something to celebrate.  It becomes a habit of sorts and if you have been married for 58 years, you married at a young age and grew up together.  This was the way for many of our parents.  There was no thinking of parting ways. While many were “lucky” to meet someone compatible and ready to meet the challenges of life, there were probably few who were “soul” mates.  My Father passed away nearly two years ago.  We went through the mourning and the sorting out of life’s possessions and moving Mom into a retirement community.  It was a challenge.  

Two months after Mom moved in, a gentleman moved in to the Center.  My Mom is 81.  This man is 94.  He took a liking to my Mom and at dinner they became “dancing partners”Image.  He, is 94 but would pass for 65-70 years.  Fast-forward and today they live together.  I have never witnessed such Love.  Doug has said that he has never felt this way for another woman, even though he was married for over 60 years.  They have “True Love”.  They have realized the importance of Life, and how very precious it is.  They wake up in separate bedrooms, but they spend valuable time together and I do not believe could be living as happily alone as they are together. Life is truly amazing and so worth living.  I sure hope that I don’t have to wait until I arrive at my retirement community to realize my “True Love”.

I grew up in a sports minded family.  My father was devoted to his favorite teams and as a child, I went to so many baseball, football and basketball games that I can not count.  I grew up watching sports and then I had two sons.  I watched them play so many sports.  We went to the State Championships several times.  Oh the memories!  Sports are such a fun diversion from our crazy life.  I know the rules to most games and usually can recall the game to someone the day later and talk about the players.  Is it strange for a woman to like sports?  So,  with the College Bowl games ongoing and the Super Bowl right around the corner, I am glued to the sports channel.  I of course have my favorite teams.  It is always fun to watch the underdog forge ahead to win.   Go Team!!ImageImageImage

OK, I have written a few posts lately about RE-meeting someone from my past.  It has been so fun!  Those 4 hour-long conversations on the cell phone.  We met sitting next to each other in our History classes about 40 years ago.  I had a crush on him, then.  So much life has moved in between our two lives.  So, I am asking….. How does one have a long distance relationship?  I will be seeing him in about 3 weeks.  This is the most different relationship that I have ever encountered.  I have lived in a city more than 30 years now very far from the home town where we grew up.  Could I live there again?  I suppose.  I have many friends in this city and to be with the one that I love would be so wonderful.  Singlehood is no fun!  I’ve tried it for 17 years now and I know that I can do it.  Time to invest in this new person.  More later!Image